Marriage & Family Therapist
Marriage and Family Counselor, Clinical Social Worker, Clinical Therapist
Marriage and family therapists work with individuals, couples, and families to help promote mental and emotional health. They bring a family-centered perspective to treatment, even when treating individuals.
"Many times, individuals come into therapy as a last resort. Marriage and family therapists have the rewarding job of helping clients who are struggling with issues such as family dysfunction, self-harm, and relational problems. The therapeutic relationship becomes one in which individuals can work through their deep pain and fight for their relationships with others. As a therapist, you get to help shed light on their hope, their areas of strength, and make them aware of the potential that still lies in their life. Its rewarding because as devastating as some clients stories are, you often have the privilege of watching people live more fulfilling lives with healthier and authentic relationships.” Jenna Stauffer, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
NOTE: Every day varies based on the client and their needs, some therapist work evenings and weekends to best fit their clients schedules.
- Typically works an 8 hour day,
- 2/3 of the day is filled with client sessions and 1/3 of the day is filled with paperwork.
- Typically sees 3-4 clients, 1-hour session per client.
- 30-60 minutes of paperwork per client regarding but not limited to:
- Assessment of their progress and current issues
- Treatment plans (diagnoses and goals)
- Giving clients referrals and resources
- If in a child or school setting, therapists provide holistic services and care that means they build relationships with the people that surround their patient (parents, counselors, and teachers).
- Listening skills
- Decision-making skills
- Communication skills
- Empathy/non-judgmental outlook
- Evaluates family roles, patterns, history and development in order to gather information about how one is impacted by their family in order to and to help bring healing into their personal lives. Treats the clients’ relationships, and not just the clients themselves.
- Understands that the people in the “family system” (spouses, significant others, children and parents) all have an impact on one’s mental health.
- Diagnoses and treats mental and emotional disorders, such as anxiety and depression.
- Encourages clients to discuss their emotions and experiences.
- Helps clients process their reactions and adjust to changes in their life, such as divorce or layoffs,
- Guides clients through the process of making decisions about their future.
- Helps clients develop strategies and skills to change their behavior or cope with difficult situations.
- Coordinates treatment with other professionals, such as psychiatrists and social workers.
- Refers clients to other resources or services in the community, such as support groups or inpatient treatment facilities.
- Addresses a wide variety of issues such as low self-esteem, stress, addiction and substance abuse.
- Religious institutions
- Educational institutes: middle school, high school, university, etc.
- County mental health facility
- Addiction/rehab facility
- Private practice
- Homeless shelters
- Non-profit organizations
- Paperwork: With every client you are working with, there is an extensive amount of paper work. A therapist would prefer to spend their time investing in the client but paperwork is just as important in order to document their history and track their progress or lack of progress.
- It personally affects you: Therapy is a 100% emotional job, both during your education and once you are a licensed practicing therapist. As you are assisting people with their own issues and dysfunctions you are simultaneously shining a light on your own past or present issues and dysfunctions. This is called “counter transference”, there isn’t necessarily a way to prevent it, it is mainly important to be aware that it will happen and learn how you as an individual best deal with your issues that surface.
- Take care of yourself: Every day you are investing everything you have to give to your client. You need to learn to balance your emotional capacity. “Self Care” is extremely important in the mental health care field. If a therapist isn’t taking care of his/herself than they can’t assist others in taking care of themselves. When dealing with clients in difficult situations mentally or physically, it is only natural for a therapist to carry some burdens with them. It is important to learn how to compartmentalize to an extent, leaving work at work in order for the therapists to maintain a healthy relationship with their own family and friends.
- A master’s degree in counseling or marriage and family therapy is required.
- A bachelor’s degree in most fields is acceptable to enter a master’s-level program.
- A supervised practical learning experience, such as an internship (also known as a “clinical”), is generally a requirement for earning this degree.
- Must complete 2,000 to 4,000 hours of supervised clinical experience.
- Pass a state-recognized exam and complete annual continuing education classes.
- Every state’s requirements vary, see the Association of Marital and Family Therapy Regulatory Boards website for a list of state recognized boards.
- Small classes: “As you are learning about therapy you go through so much inner personal reflection on your own life (past and current issues). I found that a smaller setting made it easier to go through my own processing while also learning how to best treat others.” Jenna Stauffer, Licensed Marriage Therapist
- If you are religious, look for an institution that integrates religion with psychology such as Fuller Theological Seminary in Pasadena, CA.
- Get good grades in college so you can get into a good graduate school.
- Volunteer in social/service extracurricular activities, not only helping others but building relationships as well.
- After school tutoring programs
- Big brother big sister
- Young Life
- Volunteering at homeless shelter
- Social activism
- Human rights /social justice clubs
- Psychology classes
- 6.6% with HS Diploma
- 5.7% with Associate’s
- 25.2% with Bachelor’s
- 45.9% with Master’s
- 4.6% with Doctoral
- During your clinical training, you will be interning as a marriage and family therapist. Includes individual therapy, paperwork, assessments, family therapy, and trainings. The program will assist you in finding an internship at a school, organization, or private practice.
- While you are accumulating your hours: 1) Apply to work as a licensed therapist at the location you are interning at. 2) Apply and continuously go to interviews at other sites while you are getting your licensing hours.
- Most therapists will have built up a network of connections for paying jobs over the years of schooling and interning.
- Find a specialty: While you are in school or getting your hours you should work in many areas of mental health to learn what specialty fits you best:
- Eating disorders
- Mood disorders: depression, anxiety, bi-polar
- Continuing Education: Therapy is a field that requires a lot of continuing education to maintain the license. People are ever changing and new forms of therapy are constantly being developed.
- Go to trainings, seminars and read new literature.
- Someone successful not only therapy but in the specific type of therapy you plan on practicing in. For example - If you are interested in trauma counseling, find someone in that field. If you want to work in a high school, find someone who worked with children.
- Someone who has maintained a love for their work since it is so easy to get burnt out in.
- Find a mentor who has a similar belief system as you: religious beliefs, holistic beliefs, or moral standards.
- Clinical psychologist
- Any job in social services/social work
- Life coach
- Working in Church/Ministry staff
- Human Resources
- Psychology professor
- Guidance counselor
“Bottom line, you must love people and learning because you will invest years of your life to school and thousands of dollars to your education. The devastating stories you will hear on a daily basis will wear on you so heavily, but if at the root of it all is a love and desire to help people see hope, that is what will keep you moving and make it all worth it.” Jenna Stauffer, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist